"I love your dress!" "Your haircut is fantastic!" "Excellent presentation." "Those dark circles under your eyes, really make you look old." WHAT??? Insults can stop you dead in your tracks. They usually come out of nowhere, and there never seems to be an appropriate statement to come back with. Insults are hurtful, and most likely come from someone who is hurting.
If someone is insulted, they are made to feel bad about themselves. In order to feel better, the insulted person may insult someone else. This makes them feel as if they are not such a bad person. Unfortunately, the chain of events continues with insult after insult. Compassion is the key. If you can find compassion in the person who insulted you, the insult will not affect you. This does not mean you still have to be their friend. People should not be friends with people who insult them.
Insults stem from anger, and are usually a reflection of what is going on with the insulter. If they are unhappy with their body image, they may make an insult about yours. Insults usually have nothing to do with the person that is insulted. The insult will come when the person insulting feels lack in their life.
The most hurtful insults often come from family members. These are the zingers that really leave an impression. Boundaries must be set if there is an unusual amount of insulting going on. This is abusive and destructive. No one deserves to be insulted. NO ONE! If you feel that you are the brunt of numerous insults, seek outside help. An insult here and there vs. a stream of insults is verbal abuse.
When a person thrives on self-confidence, an insult doesn't pack the punch it would if a person has a low self-image. Understanding that insults come from a place of fear and lack, can help circumvent oncoming insults. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a key factor. Negative and angry people tend to be more insulting and rude.
If someone insults you, get over the shock quickly, and make a decision to continue the interaction or not. Understand that the person who insulted you does not have permission to do so. Insulting someone back usually results in a power struggle that often does not end well. Making it clear that this type of behavior is unacceptable will allow you to continue your life insult free.
If you receive an insult, tell a friend. A true friend will remind you of all your attributes. In the event an insult comes your way, instantly say, "Cancel, cancel, clear!" This will release it from your energetic field.