Television technology changes daily, but one of the newest introductions in the 1990's was when you could watch one show on tv and at the same time you could watch another show on a different station in the corner of the screen. This was perfect for the family that wanted to watch the football game while the ‘The Simpsons’ was airing. Part of the marketing was that it would bring families together for the perfect television watching experience.

As we live our life in our own tv show, ("all the world’s a stage and we are just actors in it") it is clear that we are actually two television shows going on at the same time. We are living our primary purpose of what is needed for our own personal growth, and we are also a player in someone else’s drama for their own evolution.

This became very clear to me recently when I was involved with someone who was having a completely different life experience than I was, though for a season of episodes it seemed we were being televised on the same channel.

As I was going along in my day to day existence defining what is important for me and my own personal growth, I was aligned with another human who seemed to be contracted to be a supporting actor in my series. I soon realized that their show was on a completely different channel than mine, and the network cancelled the show before it went into syndication.

It was then that I fully realized that as I continue to fulfill my dharmic path, I am also a teacher and supporting player for others on their own paths. Every human (and pet, and plant for that matter) is serving a purpose to fulfill their life’s destiny and chart. We interact for our own evolution to define what we need in our lives to be the best we can be.

I am grateful for all the people who come into my life to teach me, and I honor the process of allowing two shows to be broadcast on my television at the same time. As we interact with others, it is important to remember that we are performing a dual purpose. One for ourselves, and one for everyone else.

So, relax, make some popcorn, and enjoy the show!
6/18/08

1. Who controls you? YOU!

2. Never stand in judgement of others.

3. No guilt! Who needs it?

4. Give and do without expectations.

5. Take care of yourself. No one else can do it for you.

6. Learn and grow everyday.

7. Trust your instincts.

8. Make your own choices.

9. Have a positive attitude.

10. Leave old baggage behind.

11. Honor other’s opinions and choices.

12. Let your vision guide you.

13. Let go of what no longer serves you.

14. Approach life without fear.

15. Sleep well at night knowing you were true to yourself all day.

Inspired by Stephanie Graziano
www.buildyourownbusiness.com

4/3/08

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When a New Year begins, we tend to get reflective, and crave change. At least I do. I like starting off the New Year in a new way. A new jewelry design, a new sound therapy machine for my healing clients, a new display for my Partylite shows. New. New. New.

New invites change. It gives us a fresh beginning on an otherwise outdated way of doing things. When we want New, we can feel secure that our lives are heading in the right direction.

Letting go of anything old is a healthy way to invite change into our lives. Whether it is a favorite sweater that up until this point you could not part with, or an idea that seemed to be working up until now, letting go is something to be celebrated.

Energy can get stuck in the corners of our rooms, in our closets, under our beds, on our desks, in our minds. Clearing out the clutter takes on a new meaning when the New Year rolls around. Take a look around your home, and see where you can clear out some clutter. It may be a stack of papers on your desk. If you haven’t looked at them in a year, guaranteed they are not important. See how you feel when you dump that stack into the trash. Breathing becomes instantly easier.

Clapping out the corners of our home is a wonderful exercise in moving stagnant energy. You can use your hands and literally clap out the energy in the corners of each room, running your clapping hands up and down the wall. You can use a bell or chimes, or anything that stimulates the dispersion of energy.

Closets are notorious for storing old energy. Your clothes closet, or the junk drawer, are all manifestations of what you don’t need in your life. By getting rid of things, you open the door for newness to enter. Whether it is something new to wear, or an idea, anything new that replaces anything old, is a valuable reinforcement of change in your life.

Often times, fear holds us back from letting go of what we don’t need anymore. My favorite question to ask is, "What would you do if you had no fear?" This question has led to amazing answers, and when followed, a whole new direction in your life can manifest.

It’s a New Year. A new time in our lives to clear out the old, and bring in the new. Raise your vibration. Increase your energy level. Embrace change.

1/08/08

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Money is associated with power. When we have it, we feel good. When we don’t have it, we feel horrible. I have been in both positions, so I know first hand what that means.

Recently I attended a luncheon for the Association of Women Entrepreneurs, a wonderful business group I belong to. The speaker was Linda Hollander, the Wealthy Bag Lady. She spoke about her journey up the ladder of success, and with humor she shared what it was like for her to be at the lower end of the totem pole financially. 

I was fortunate to have won her book in the raffle, "Bags to Riches, 7 Success Secrets for Women in Business," and dove into it heartily. It was in this book that I discovered one of the most valuable tools for changing our subconscious mind in regards to receiving money.

It’s called The Mental Bank.

Linda shared that she attended a business seminar given by Danielle Durant where she was given the idea of The Mental Bank. You see, the subconscious mind does not know the difference between something that is real or something that is merely a thought. This is the concept so aptly presented in 'The Secret'.

Utilizing your Mental Bank, you pay yourself for things you do during the day.  You can pay yourself for eating breakfast, walking the dog, taking a class, or making business calls.  When you begin to pay yourself, the subconscious mind translates this into real money coming into your bank account or wallet. It’s a very simple concept that is easy to do, and has huge rewards.

For example, I decided to pay myself $750 to do my hair and makeup for the day. I noticed that when I paid myself (in my mind) to do this, I did a much better job. I also felt better, since I was earning money for my time.

Being stuck in traffic is a pet peeve of mine, and living in Los Angeles it can be an everyday occurrence. Recently I was stuck in rush hour traffic with the added ingredient of an accident. I decided to pay myself $10,000 for this crawling ride home, and I did it with ease and calm.

Getting paid for one’s time is crucial for self-esteem. When you begin to pay yourself with your mental bank, you will begin to feel as if money is available every minute of every day.  This helps to alleviate stress, and to be more open to "real" money coming in.  Keeping a journal of your mental income is an excellent way to reinforce this habit. 

I notice I use this tool quite often. If someone cuts me off on the freeway, I pay myself $5000 for having gone through the experience. If I have to wait on hold on the phone, I pay myself a nice amount to do so, and I add to it the longer I am waiting. This calms me down, confirms to me that my time is valuable, and I’ve noticed that my actual bank account has improved.

I HONOR RECEIVING

After my divorce in early 1993, I felt pretty much like a zombie. I didn’t know what was to become of me. It was at that time that I had a little addiction problem to psychic readings. I would treat myself to a reading and if the information wasn’t what I wanted to hear, I would disregard it. I would take the good, and shun the bad. I was constantly on the prowl for the red haired lady that would give me a job, or the guy with the boat that would steal my heart. I was lost. And sad. And fearful.

On one of my jaunts to Santa Monica, I snuck into The Psychic Eye on Main Street under the guise of buying a CD of Harp Music. Of course the pull of having a psychic reading was too strong for me, and soon I was led into the back for a reading with the available intuitive.

I don’t remember her name, but what she said stayed with me for years. Even now, I can recall her wisdom.

She said, "I’m not going to tell you what kind of job you are going to get, and I am not going to tell you about the man you might meet. I will, however, tell you something that is very important, but you must promise not to share it with anyone for a year."

I immediately agreed and waited with bated breath for my reading.

She wrote a note on a piece of paper. Three words. I HONOR RECEIVING.

I really didn’t know how this was going to change my life, so I waited for her to speak.

She explained that many women are quick to give, but not to receive. "For example," she said, "if you go to a dinner party with a gift for the hostess, the hostess may be inclined to refuse the gift. She may say, ‘Oh no, you don’t have to give me anything.’" This action results in a blockage of give and take energy that is important for us to thrive. If we put up our hand and say, "NO," we put a halt to embracing what we deserve.

Many women don’t want to feel obligated. Often they feel it is easier to give and not expect anything in return. Giving is easy. Receiving is hard. Even compliments are often shrugged off with, "No, I don’t really look good," when "Thank you," is all that is necessary to keep the energy flowing.

She said that I should mentally say, "I honor receiving," throughout the day, everyday, all the time, until it becomes second nature. I took to heart what she said, and agreed to do so.

Then she pulled out 5 gemstones and laid them out before me. She said, "See these five stones? Many women in relationships give all five stones to their partner, but become very disappointed and disillusioned when they only get one stone back. They give five (representing all of themself) and only get a teeny bit back in return. Eventually that relationship will end.

The next relationship comes around, and you may give all five stones and get two back. Yay! This is a vast improvement, and many women are satisfied to get back only two because getting anything back is greatly appreciated. Of course the goal is to give all five stones (all of yourself) and get all five back in return. This represents a balanced relationship of give and take."

I took the Five Stone Theory to heart and realized that although I thought I was giving all five stones in my relationship, I was mirroring what I was getting back which wasn’t much. I was probably only giving one or two stones even though it felt like five. I was withholding honesty. I was withholding anger. I was withholding happiness.

After that reading, my obsession with psychic readings ended, and ultimately I became a healing practitioner and psychic medium myself. I still have the paper she gave me with the words, I HONOR RECEIVING, and I still say it in my head at appropriate times. I honor all the goodness that has been bestowed on me, and I know that each and every day I give five stones in whatever I say and do. The goodness and abundance that has been received is immeasurable. And, when someone gives me a gift or a compliment, I enthusiastically say, "Thank you!"

11/9/07

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